How to Explain the SCOTUS Decision on Gay Marriage to your School Aged Kids
Me to the Princess (who is a straight ally): Did you see that the supreme court ruled on Gay Marriage today?
Me: That is so cool, isn’t it? It’s just so awesome.
I catch Littlebit’s eye in the back seat.
Me: Do you know what it means to be Gay?
Me: Well, I’m a girl and I like boys. And Daddy is a boy and he liked girls. We were in love and we married each other. But, sometimes boys love boys and want to marry boys AND sometimes girls love girls and want to marry girls and NOW boys can marry boys and girls can marry girls if they want to. Isn’t that great?
Littlebit (always all about love!) Yeah!
Baby Bee: Boys are gross.
There you have it. A simple, straightforward conversation about what it means to be Gay AND what it means to be able to marry whomever you choose. That’s it. That’s all it took. Along with a reassurance that Daddy and Mommy want them to love and marry whomever they choose no matter their gender, race or religion. Everyone is worthy, if they are good people.
We teach our children. There’s an amazing Dennis Leary quote floating around that says something to the affect of “You know what my 2 year old hates? Naps. We aren’t born racist.” And that’s true. We’re not born racist or ageist or homophobic or classist or religionist (creedist? Xist? I’ve learned there’s no one word term for people being prejudiced towards a religious group. I mean, there’s antisemitism, but that’s sort of limiting in that it only refers to Jewish people). We teach and model this in our homes. There will be facebook posts and twitter posts and blog posts with people lamenting how they will tell their children about what happened. Honestly, it didn’t seem that hard to me. Children understand and accept our differences so easily.
“In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves.”
–Justice Anthony Kenndy