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  1. Ellen Yula says:

    I want to thank you for an invaluable description your words taught me from a Pin on pinterest. You’ve helped me retire grief permanently because you made me understand it’s ‘why’. Bless your writings and your life. I then traced the words to your blog source to find it was said about Max and ultimately? about your Mom. They were both so lucky to have you in their lives. You are an Enricher. Thank you for enriching mine. And here is how:

    “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go.” ~ J.W.A

    1. Jamie says:

      Ellen, I cannot begin to thank you enough for this wonderful comment. When I read it this past weekend, it took my breath away for a little bit. I never expected that something I wrote could resonate with people in this way. I’m so, so glad that it did with you and that it has with others. I have never been called an Enricher and it is a compliment of the highest order. Thank you. Really. From the very, very bottom of my heart. <3

  2. Kathy says:

    I’ve seen the uncredited quote of the paragraph about grief being “unspent love” at your link below…from March 2014 Is that original with you? I saw it today on Second Firsts’ fb page, and decided to try to find its origination via google. SO far yours is the earliest occurance I can find.


    1. Jamie says:

      Hi Kathy!

      I checked out your link and those words in that graphic are mine, verbatim, as you now know. I know there is an author floating a similar concept in a book she has written, but as with all ideas I can’t say, for certain, that I never subconsciously absorbed that idea from someone else, so I’m hesitant to get cranky about it. I was able to read the comments under the image and I thank you, sincerely, for crediting me. It brings me a lot of happiness to know that something I’ve said has been helpful to others. <3

      1. Kathy says:

        Hey jamie– you probably know Eric and your friend Cindy piped up too! :-) I discovered the quote has really made the rounds, so probably too late correct the attribution. It’s taken on a life of its own. But maybe that has it’s own satisfaction. Blessings!


        1. Jamie says:

          Christina did amend her posting of the image, which is great. I’ve always said I wanted my readership to grow organically and so I’m taking this as a positive. Thank you for looking out for me, Kathy. <3 I appreciate it.

          1. Maggie says:

            Hi Jamie, I’m curious as to what author you mention that has been saying something similar to what you originally wrote. I need to read him or her! Please comment about the book you heard! Thank you.

          2. Jamie says:

            Hey Maggie! I’ll do some googling and e-mail you!

  3. Cynthia says:

    “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
    *****I love this quote so much. I just experienced a very profound and devastating loss and I have read this over and over and have begun to internalize it. Thank you. It’s brilliant.

    1. Jamie says:

      I am so sorry for your loss and I’m glad something I’ve said has helped you in any small way. <3

  4. Bobbie Goettee says:

    Your story about Max, your Mom and grief has made my day so much easier. So very well written and all makes sense as I grieve over the loss of my dear twin sister 7 weeks ago. How do I deal with my loss??? I am putting your article on my fridge to read daily. Thank you!

    1. Jamie says:

      Bobbie, that is such a great compliment. I’m so sorry for the loss of your sister. <3

  5. Kacey says:

    Thank you so much for your words about grief. It made me feel so much better to know that it’s okay to mourn and cry for my mom, 6+ years since she passed, because it means I love her that much. I’ve also just shared your words with two friends who lost loved ones in the past week, and it brought them great comfort.

    God bless you for using His gift of written expression.

    1. Jamie says:

      Thank you for your kind words, Kacey. My Mom has been gone just about ten years and grief is still my partner, sometimes. It will always be because I’m going to love her until I’m done. <3

  6. Ruben says:

    The description you write…of grief…is finally giving vocabulary to what I’ve been feeling this last month. Thank you.

    1. Jamie says:

      I’m so glad those thing were helpful for you, Ruben. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  7. Joanna says:

    You made a beautiful quote about grief and I am wondering if I could quote you? I dabble in writing and may or may never write a book but I would like your permission to use this quote in my book if it ever becomes that??;-). The way you put it is so well done.

  8. Rory says:

    Prolific, indeed, gives me a physical understanding of what I felt for the past seven years,. and tomorrow…. and forever.

  9. Joanne Davison Miller says:

    Thank you for your writings. They are magnificent. My heart feels better for them. To be understood is a rare thing in grief it seems.

    Please continue to comfort this world with your words. Today you have comforted mine.

  10. Toni Locke says:

    I am a calligrapher (on good days when my arthritis is not in control of my hands). I would very much like to use a quotation from your column about losing Max for the front of a card I intend to reproduce for condolences, full paragraph of “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. . . . love with no place to go.” I would credit you beneath the quotation and place the full address of your blog on the back of the card. The cards would just be for my personal use, but I need your permission. I would not use the quotation without your permission. I would be willing to pay a fee for the copy rights if necessary.
    My grandson died in a wreck last February, exactly one month shy of his 26th birthday. Your statement was shared with my daughter (his mother) and I have shared it on my Facebook page. It is incredibly insightful as well as concise. Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts with such talent on your blog.

  11. susan dalby says:


    I’m another who was lucky to have a good friend send your words…we lost our beautiful, strong,witty, charming, talented, loving, generous, kind Mother, the evening of the 23rd. An unbearable conclusion to a month of horrific events and challenges . Finally she could not go on, squeezed a nurse’s hand and died.

    I am so grateful to your words, and will share them, and your authorship with any and all I love and know are grieving, too.


    1. Jamie says:

      Susan, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. There is never a good time to lose your Mom. You’ll never be old enough and the time of year will always be awful. I’m glad these words have helped you. <3

  12. Jenny Parnwell says:

    My brother has just sent me your words on Grief ….and I read your blog about Max, and your Mom. My daughter died 15 years ago, aged 33, and my husband died last year. It really resonates with how I feel. Thank you, Jamie.

    1. Jamie says:

      I’m so sorry for your losses, Jenny, and I’m glad my words could help you. <3

  13. Carol says:

    I too was touched by the “quote about grief”. Thank you for putting into words what most of us feel.

    1. Jamie says:

      Thanks for your kind words

  14. Jennifer M. K. says:

    I’m grieving the loss of my mother and just…thank you. A cousin posted your “grief, I’ve learned, is really love quote” as author unknown and it really helped today, so I wanted to share it and properly credit it if I could. (Do you spell your last name Anerson or Anderson?) Now though, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your gift and your heart, for making the world a little better.

    1. Jamie says:

      I’m glad what I wrote has helped you in any way. Thank you for wanting to credit me. My last name is Anderson. :)

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