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    I want to thank you for an invaluable description your words taught me from a Pin on pinterest. You’ve helped me retire grief permanently because you made me understand it’s ‘why’. Bless your writings and your life. I then traced the words to your blog source to find it was said about Max and ultimately? about your Mom. They were both so lucky to have you in their lives. You are an Enricher. Thank you for enriching mine. And here is how:

    “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go.” ~ J.W.A

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      Ellen, I cannot begin to thank you enough for this wonderful comment. When I read it this past weekend, it took my breath away for a little bit. I never expected that something I wrote could resonate with people in this way. I’m so, so glad that it did with you and that it has with others. I have never been called an Enricher and it is a compliment of the highest order. Thank you. Really. From the very, very bottom of my heart. <3

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        Hi Jamie- I agree with everyone that your quote on grief is the best explanation that I’ve ever come across. Are you the same Jamie Anderson that has published books on fat loss, and celebrities? When I Googled your quote (which someone used in the comments on Anderson Cooper’s Youtube interview with Stephen Colbert which was a great interview if you have not seen it), the top hits were from a Jamie Anderson, author of “Fat Girl Truths”. Is that you?

        Here’s a link to the Youtube video I mentioned. I had no idea that Stephen Colbert was this deep.
        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB46h1koicQ

        I lost my mother when I was 8. Your words sum up what I have felt the past 37 years. Thank you so much. I you have an email list I will definitely subscribe.

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      Hi Kathy!

      I checked out your link and those words in that graphic are mine, verbatim, as you now know. I know there is an author floating a similar concept in a book she has written, but as with all ideas I can’t say, for certain, that I never subconsciously absorbed that idea from someone else, so I’m hesitant to get cranky about it. I was able to read the comments under the image and I thank you, sincerely, for crediting me. It brings me a lot of happiness to know that something I’ve said has been helpful to others. <3

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        Hey jamie– you probably know Eric and your friend Cindy piped up too! :-) I discovered the quote has really made the rounds, so probably too late correct the attribution. It’s taken on a life of its own. But maybe that has it’s own satisfaction. Blessings!

        -Kathy

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          Christina did amend her posting of the image, which is great. I’ve always said I wanted my readership to grow organically and so I’m taking this as a positive. Thank you for looking out for me, Kathy. <3 I appreciate it.

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            Hi Jamie, I’m curious as to what author you mention that has been saying something similar to what you originally wrote. I need to read him or her! Please comment about the book you heard! Thank you.

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            Hey Maggie! I’ll do some googling and e-mail you!

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        Truly there are a lot of uncredited versions of your quote. But, as Kathy notes, some digging led me to a lovely art piece with the full quote and your name. Jamie… it was your words that lifted me (even if just momentarily) out of my grief after my husband died. Over time, it was your words that served as a beacon. It’ll be 3 yrs in May and I’m in a much better space. But, on occasions that I’m taken back to those first moments of Loss I think of you and your words.
        Just wanted to let you know how appreciative I am of you. Also, I reference you and the role your words play in my grief journey in a project I’m working on.
        Be well. And, stay safe…

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      Hi! I’m using this quote in a video. I’ve always seen it as “unknown”, but I’d like to credit it properly. Please let me know how to do that, as I only know your first name.

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    “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
    *****I love this quote so much. I just experienced a very profound and devastating loss and I have read this over and over and have begun to internalize it. Thank you. It’s brilliant.

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      I am so sorry for your loss and I’m glad something I’ve said has helped you in any small way. <3

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      Having recently lost sister, I ran across this quote and I must say, it totally spoke to my heart and mind in that I truly understand and feel that all this grief and tears really is the love for my Missing sister trying to find somewhere to go

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    Your story about Max, your Mom and grief has made my day so much easier. So very well written and all makes sense as I grieve over the loss of my dear twin sister 7 weeks ago. How do I deal with my loss??? I am putting your article on my fridge to read daily. Thank you!

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      Bobbie, that is such a great compliment. I’m so sorry for the loss of your sister. <3

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    Thank you so much for your words about grief. It made me feel so much better to know that it’s okay to mourn and cry for my mom, 6+ years since she passed, because it means I love her that much. I’ve also just shared your words with two friends who lost loved ones in the past week, and it brought them great comfort.

    God bless you for using His gift of written expression.

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      Thank you for your kind words, Kacey. My Mom has been gone just about ten years and grief is still my partner, sometimes. It will always be because I’m going to love her until I’m done. <3

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    The description you write…of grief…is finally giving vocabulary to what I’ve been feeling this last month. Thank you.

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      I’m so glad those thing were helpful for you, Ruben. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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    I saw the above quote, from other comments, on FB this morning. I am sending it to a friend of mine who lost her 24 year old son last December. Thank you.

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    You made a beautiful quote about grief and I am wondering if I could quote you? I dabble in writing and may or may never write a book but I would like your permission to use this quote in my book if it ever becomes that??;-). The way you put it is so well done.

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    Prolific, indeed, gives me a physical understanding of what I felt for the past seven years,. and tomorrow…. and forever.

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    Thank you for your writings. They are magnificent. My heart feels better for them. To be understood is a rare thing in grief it seems.

    Please continue to comfort this world with your words. Today you have comforted mine.

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    Hi Jamie,

    My name is Erin and my family owns a funeral home in Kingwood, TX. I saw your unattributed grief quote and as so many previous posters, I tracked you here. You have such a gift!

    I am writing because I write an article every month in a local magazine about grief or life or just about growing up in the funeral industry. This month I want to talk about how a loss marks a new beginning and I would love to open the article, with your permission, with your correctly attributed quote. I would love to share it and to direct people to your beautiful blog.

    What do you think?

    Either way, thank you for your beautiful words. They have touched me personally so deeply. <3

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    I’d like to subscribe to your blog but don’t find a field to do so. Could you add me to your list? Your beautiful writing on grief (about your dog dying and losing the touchstones to your mother) led me to your blog. Thank you!

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    I am a calligrapher (on good days when my arthritis is not in control of my hands). I would very much like to use a quotation from your column about losing Max for the front of a card I intend to reproduce for condolences, full paragraph of “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. . . . love with no place to go.” I would credit you beneath the quotation and place the full address of your blog on the back of the card. The cards would just be for my personal use, but I need your permission. I would not use the quotation without your permission. I would be willing to pay a fee for the copy rights if necessary.
    My grandson died in a wreck last February, exactly one month shy of his 26th birthday. Your statement was shared with my daughter (his mother) and I have shared it on my Facebook page. It is incredibly insightful as well as concise. Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts with such talent on your blog.

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    Jamie,

    I’m another who was lucky to have a good friend send your words…we lost our beautiful, strong,witty, charming, talented, loving, generous, kind Mother, the evening of the 23rd. An unbearable conclusion to a month of horrific events and challenges . Finally she could not go on, squeezed a nurse’s hand and died.

    I am so grateful to your words, and will share them, and your authorship with any and all I love and know are grieving, too.

    Susan

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      Susan, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. There is never a good time to lose your Mom. You’ll never be old enough and the time of year will always be awful. I’m glad these words have helped you. <3

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    My brother has just sent me your words on Grief ….and I read your blog about Max, and your Mom. My daughter died 15 years ago, aged 33, and my husband died last year. It really resonates with how I feel. Thank you, Jamie.

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      I’m so sorry for your losses, Jenny, and I’m glad my words could help you. <3

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    Hi Jaime,
    I just lost my mother-in-law this week, and my BIL shared your quote at her funeral. I’m sure he’d appreciate the opportunity to give credit where it is due. Can you direct me to your original post where it was written so I can forward it on to him please?

    Thank you so much!

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    I too was touched by the “quote about grief”. Thank you for putting into words what most of us feel.

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      Thanks for your kind words

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    I’m grieving the loss of my mother and just…thank you. A cousin posted your “grief, I’ve learned, is really love quote” as author unknown and it really helped today, so I wanted to share it and properly credit it if I could. (Do you spell your last name Anerson or Anderson?) Now though, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your gift and your heart, for making the world a little better.

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      I’m glad what I wrote has helped you in any way. Thank you for wanting to credit me. My last name is Anderson. :)

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    I have to thank you for the piece you wrote on grief that Ellen quoted below.
    It is a shaft of light from beyond the veil between us and ? It is inspired.
    I call the ? God but I don’t know you well enough to know if you do. I found this piece by you, this paragraph, on Facebook and copied it into my journal over a year ago. It touches me in the deepest place in my heart.

    My parents immigrated to Canada in 1956. We have no relatives here. No grandparents, aunts, uncles or cousins. When I was in grade 7 (about1970) we went as a family to England to meet my relatives. On the night before we left to come home we all gathered together for a meal and I started to cry and cry and cry. I remember the intense pain in my throat and the ache in my heart knowing we would be leaving all these new-to- me family members. I was teased and shamed for my tears. No one else was crying and I couldn’t understand why I was suffering while everyone else seemed happy. But now I do. Since reading that one paragraph you wrote, I understand.

    I have been called: soppy, fragile, a nuisance, and an annoyance for my tears over the years. But I’m not ashamed when I realize they are an expression of love. Thank you!

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    I’d like to share a quote from your site, with attribution of course. The quote is, “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go.”

    May I?

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      I’m happy to allow sharing of the quote, attributed, of course, and with a link if possible.

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        Jamie, I’ve just run across your words on grief – “Grief I’ve learned…” Today we buried a 26 year old family member and my adult grandkids are consumed in grief. Have you put that quote on any merchandise that I can purchase? If not, I would like your permission to have pictures made of the young man with your quote on the bottom. Please let me know. Thanks so much and your words are the most beautiful I’ve ever read.

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    Jamie – thank you. As others have said – this is a truly beautiful way of understanding deep grief. I’ve had weeks whereby my loss has gone largely unmarked, then a day of such sorrow out of the blue, made me seek comfort from those I know will have experienced the same. This has really helped me with this wave of unexpected emotion.

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    Hi, I believe this is the truest and most beautiful observation of grief that I have ever read or heard. Not only clever and beautiful, but so helpful for anyone in grief. This one paragraph brings peace and gives the chaos of grief dignity. I would love to share this but there are a few people named Jamie Anderson, so firstly can I attributing to you and secondly how can I link it to you and not the others? Steve

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    Read your poem on Grief and went to you post about Max. I’m gonna read more of your writings along and would like to be on your email list if possible. Lost my mom 2yrs ago and just suddenly were very shocked to learn my dad has stage 4 lung cancer which has spread all over and 5 tumors in his brain. We had NO IDEA! He has very limited time and in hospice care. Similar situation. Cancer is just so unfair!

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    Love what you wrote. Some people are not able to express their feelings in words. They appreciate and are able to relate to what others are able to express. Thank you for sharing.
    Tess

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    This morning, on NPR, I listened to a story about the suicide rate amongst American farmers. This was a Story Corps recording, and centered around a specific incident of a wife whose husband joined that number. In the story she said that she had read somewhere that “Grief is love with no place to go.” The quote struck me so poignantly that I had to find its source. It’s quoting was accurate, Jaime, with the omission of the word “just.”

    It is so true and penetrating I thought to make this comment.

    So now you know that literally millions have heard your inspired words.

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    I’m another person who found such comfort in that grief quote. :) My momma died 2 years ago and sometime during the earliest days someone shared your words with me. They have stuck with me since then. It felt like a sigh of relief reading them… “Yes… that is exactly what this is.” Thank you for sharing your heart!

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    I’ll parrot the kudos of your “grief” comment–it’s beautiful and spot-on. I wrote a short post about the death of my beloved old dog–and his deep connection to our family– and someone passed onto to me your blog link. Thank you

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    Hello Jamie,
    I am seeking permission to quote “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot.
    All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.
    The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go. ” in my new novel, From Grief to Gratitude. I would love to use it as a chapter introduction with your permission.
    Kind regards
    Marion

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    Jamie – I just came across your blog and your wonderful quote on “grief is just love with no place to go. ” It really resonates with me having lost my friend of 36 years just this week. I plan to share it with her family and reference your blog. Such a touching story about Max and you Mom. You have a beautiful way with words. Thank you for sharing.

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    Hi Jaime,
    I am speaking at an event this week. I would appreciate you allowing me to use and credit you in my talk. Please let me know if this is ok.
    Respectfully,

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    I just wanted to let you know how much your words on grief have helped me.

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    Hi Jamie,
    I am currently finishing my GCSE art project centred around grief, exploring the ways in which grief works, and how it hits when we least expect it or sometimes we feel guilty that it’s not there and how it never follows a structure. I came across your words on Pinterest about Grief when I was looking for inspiration for some artwork , and your words really moved me. Especially in these difficult times of uncertainty, many people will be experiencing all the effects of grief and I feel your words perfectly capture how consuming it is and how it clouds our ability to see that this is a form of our love for that person continuing. For the final piece of my project I have created a short film called “Her name was Grief”. I wanted to create a song that would encapsulate how grief feels to different people to act as the backing music to my film and your words became my inspiration in which I wrote the song around. I finished the song last week and my friend Ava Peter has used her beautiful vocals and amazing musical talent to turn the lyrics into a song. We are both students at Wirral Grammar School for Girls where we would have been taking our year 11 GCSE’s in a few weeks. We would love it if we could feature your words as we believe they hold a lot of meaning and will help many at this difficult time with accepting this feeling and knowing they aren’t alone, although this song is mainly for my art project we strongly believe this song could be shared at a time like this with the struggles of this Pandemic.
    The quote I’ve been inspired by was “Grief I’ve learned is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot. All the unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” We have ever so slightly adapted some of the words to fit better to the music we have found, however most of the quote is used. The reason for this message is to ask for your permission to use this quote as we do not want to take another persons writing and ideas without crediting them for their work. I’m also writing really as a thank you for your beautiful words that I can see have touched so many people! If you would like to hear the song then we would be extremely grateful, if you would then please do not hesitate to contact my email address I’ve linked. Thank you so much again and I hope you and your family are well and safe and I wish you all the best in these difficult times x

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