Forty Before Forty

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    1. Hit my goal weight
    2. Run a 5K
    3. Run a half marathon
    4. Visit 6 more states (to bring my life total up to 25)
      1. New Jersey-August 2014
      2. Nevada-June 2015
      3. California-June 2015
      4. Louisiana-June 2016
      5. Alabama-June 2016
      6. Mississippi-June 2016
      7. Connecticut- June 2016
    5. Volunteer 100 hours
    6. Read every book on my shelves (but I can skip those I’ve already read)
    7. Knit through all my yarn
    8. Sell something I made
    9. Write a first draft
    10. Stay at the Drake in Chicago Stayed at a swanky hotel in Chicago-June 2016
    11. Stay at the Renaissance in Pittsburgh
    12. Drink 64 oz of water every day
    13. Learn to sleep with the TV off
    14. Give up the phone/laptop for six weeks
    15. Give up meat for six weeks
    16. Give up carbs for six weeks (grain and sugar, not fruit and veggies)
    17. Visit all 5 Great Lakes with the girls
    18. Visit, and camp in, 5 National Parks
    19. Learn and play 5 songs on the guitar
    20. Learn to paint a room correctly and then do it
    21. Learn how to use power tools and then build something all on my own
    22. Walk the Ravenel Bridge
    23. Stay a night on the Battery
    24. Spend a vacation Ocean Front
    25. Get a tattoo-July 2016
    26. Dye my hair something other than blonde
    27. Donate blood
    28. eliminate all unsecured debt
    29. Plant spring bulbs
    30. grow an amazing garden
    31. have a porch swing on my porch
    32. Submit a picture to a photography contest and win
    33. Suprise #1
    34. Surprise #2
    35. Surprise #3
    36. Finish watching Lost
    37. Watch the top 10 movies on AFI’s 100 Movies list
    38. Spend a whole day paying it forward
    39. finish my degree
    40. Print out photos or put into books so they can be looked at and enjoyed.
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9 thoughts on “Forty Before Forty

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    Hi! I wondered if I could quote you from your post titled, “As the Lights Wink Out?” I am the newsletter editor for our local Compassionate Friends group (a national support group for bereaved parents.) I’d like to use this quote: “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go. ” in our next newsletter.

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    I’m 42 and haven’t done half the things I hoped to achieve in life. I have done many and in a few weeks i will be going sky diving..Another to cross off my list!

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      I am certainly not brave enough to sky dive. I hope you have fun!

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    Ms. Anderson, I wrote to another blogger in an attempt to find where she obtained the following quote to make sure it was not copyrighted and to give you full credit. I noted that your blog is copyrighted and I do not want to “infringe”… Your quote is so beautifully expressed, it exactly fits a place in my book TRUE CONFESSIONS OF A TRANSFORMED WOMAN. The story is different (the loss of children through parental alienation), but you so beautifully expressed the experience with grief. I am certain this is not the proper place to leave this REPLY, however, I could find no other place on your blog to reach you. My manuscript will be submitted in Aug. If you could reply ASAP it would be much appreciated. Nancee Tanner

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    So sorry, Ms. Anderson, I failed to include the quote!

    Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go. Nancee Tanner

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    I also need to know how to include your quote in a book I am ready to turn in for publishing. Or to use part of it in the title of my book on grief. “Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give. The more you loved someone, the more you grieve. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling. The happiness of love turns to sadness when unspent. Grief is just love with no place to go.”

    I lost a daughter and this quote has given me a new outlook on life. I hope the book I wrote will help others! Kindly let me know ASAP…my editor is waiting for the answer.

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    Hi Jamie, i’ve co-written a book about adoption and foster care; i would like to include a quote from your “As the Lights Wink Out’ blog, i’ve seen it in quite a few places on social media and it took me a bit to track you down :)
    We have a chapter on grief and would love to include your beautiful quote ‘Grief i’ve learned is really just love ….’

    please feel free to email or call if you want to learn more about the book/adoption/foster care,
    many thanks, allison

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    Hi, Jamie! I’d like to use your wonderful quote in my book, “Through God’s Eyes: Finding Peace and Purpose in a Troubled World” (http://GodsEyesBook.com), as follows:

    Grief, I’ve learned, is really love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot give…. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes and in that part of your chest that gets empty and hollow feeling…. Grief is just love with no place to go.

    It looks like there should be the word “an” before “empty and hollow feeling.” Is that correct? I want to make sure I quote you accurately.

    Thank you so much!

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